I understand everyone has their preference, however, to be a good parent, it’s very important to be fair.
Unfair parents may cause damage to their children’s mind, destroy their self confidence, and twist their values. And it’s not reversible.
Children feel they are not good enough than others and that’s why parents are not good to them. Of courses, children will fight for that, and they do in different ways. Some will follow instructions and lose themselves and what they really want. If it’s not work, they may lose control and against for what they’ve done. They will not stop asking themselves why they’re not good no matter how hard they do. They feel everyone look down to them and don’t like them. Even they doubt themselves on
everything.
Some may try to get their parents’ attention by doing bad things. At first, it’s just a small trick, then it’s getting worse. Some day, they may become notorious criminals. That’s what we don’t want to see.
How to be a good parent? I don’t know. The only thing I know is to put yourself in their shoes. If you don’t like the treatment, don’t do that to your children!