你的家人或是朋友圈的人對你不太友善。
這狀況並非最近,而是以循序漸進的方式。起初,可能沒有明顯或是討厭的感覺,但隨著
時間過去會開始有不舒服的感受,接著厭惡感倍增,但你無法對此做出回應或是反駁。
把事情拉到檯面上只會讓你覺得自己像個壞人,因為這種對待的方式並不突出或顯眼。
然而,隨著時間慢慢過去,厭惡感只會有增無減。
你不一定要把這件事說出來,但可以改變過去你所做的應對模式。
心之所向即為自身標的。
註1:該對待方式屬於冷暴力,這種往往最棘手也最難解決,但換個角度想:不須遷就自己在
對方身上,意即無須隨著對方的回應起舞,做自己的主人吧~
註2:接連好幾天的低落,若有對象倒還好,沒對象就是個死胡同呢...
Someone in your family or your circle of friend has a negative way of treating
you.
Since this pattern is not overtly mean or nasty - but rather uncomfortably
passive - aggressive - you don't always feel that there is anything you can say
or do about it.
You may fear that bringing the issue up will only make you look bad , simply
because the treatment is so inderstated.
However , over time the effects of this have built up.
You don't necessarily have to speak up , but you could change your reaction to
it by not responding.
Since your response is the goal , this sould work.