23. Haters can’t strategize. Hate blinds you, it makes you act irrationally,
so they’re not really a threat. They can’t think long-term (no one who does
ever engages in hating). They don’t see a bigger picture. They are not as
strong as you might think they are. Still though: watch your back.
24. Haters, and those who support them, can’t get anywhere in life until
they go back and fix the damage they’ve caused. If their cause was just,
they would go about it the right way, not by hating. If those who support
them had good motives, they would demand sunshine on the whole situation and
the right ways of dealing with conflict. So these haters can’t follow you
where you’re going. Likely, they can’t even keep up.
25. Haters can cause a lot of damage, but they won’t actually create
anything significant on their own (unless they stop hating). It’s like the
old Freemason lesson, where one is asked how long it takes to build a
building and how much skill (long and a lot) versus how long and how much
skill to tear something down (not much at all). Haters are mostly trying to
make a big splash, or to appear to be on par. Look at it like this: there’s
only two ways to be as big of a deal as a president. You can spend you’re
whole life working your butt off to develop yourself into something amazing…
or you can shoot the president. Haters are like presidential assassins —
they think they can achieve through destruction what can only be achieved
through creation.
26. Don’t tolerate haters in your life or world, and don’t be friends or
trust anyone who does. You can’t transplant cancer. If someone hates on
people regularly, when they come into your life they will make it out like
those other people were bad, but they love you. This is false. And just
because people aren’t openly hating, if they’re comfortable being in
relationship with people who do, they are actually worse, because their
motives aren’t hate — they profit from the hate in some other way. I now
know I was wrong to think that haters who hated on others wouldn’t come to
hate me. This is a naive mistake for a leader.
27. Focus on your Lovers. Haters can DRAIN you — you’ve got to put your
focus on those who love you instead. And as soon as the haters are out of
your life, all those people who loved you or wanted to or thought they might
but stayed away because of the haters’ games will come out of the WOODWORK.
28. Haters usually hate demographics, not just individuals. They will claim
they don’t, but you will find bias against groups of people here somewhere.
It might not be as bad as racism or homophobia, but it will be akin to it.
Hatin’ is a way of life. No one just accidentally does it.
29. Look for who the Players are. When 50 Cent went after Ja Rule, he wasn’t
hating. It looked like it, but he was making a cold calculated move. He knew
that taking on Ja Rule was a great opportunity, a win-win for him, and a
lose-lose for Ja Rule. Unless you’re a rapper, that’s not an approach I
recommend in life or business, but if you observe your haters you may
discover that one of them or their supporters doesn’t hate at all: they
might actually have an incentive. In business this is usually money or
status. Keep your eyes on the Players, or keep your eye out for them. But
most likely… there are no players. There is no strategy. Just hurting people
bumbling through the difficulty of being alive.